James Whitaker
DATY stands for "dining at the Y" β oral sex performed on a woman. The Y is a joke about the shape, and the phrase is old enough to have outlived whoever came up with it. What makes DATY unusual in this vocabulary is the direction. Almost every other acronym on a listing describes something the provider does. This one describes something the client does.
Why that distinction matters
Because it changes who is agreeing to what. Most services on a profile are offered. DATY is accepted. A provider who lists it is agreeing to receive something from a stranger. That's a totally different decision, and plenty of people say no for reasons that have nothing to do with being prudish.
The usual reasons are practical. Receiving oral needs a kind of physical relaxation that doesn't turn on by appointment. There's also a transmission risk, this time toward the provider. And unlike most listed services, if it goes badly it's unpleasant in a way professionalism can't cut short. Providers who offer it have usually decided they're fine with all three. Those who don't have decided otherwise, and that's the end of it.
In the catalogue it's listed under the clinical name: cunnilingus.
Related acronyms
| Term | Meaning |
|---|---|
| DATY | Oral performed on a woman |
| DATO | The anal equivalent β much rarer, usually a fetish-specific listing |
| DFK | Deep French kissing β frequently listed alongside, negotiated the same way |
| 69 | Mutual oral; listed separately again |
None of these means another one is included. A provider who offers DFK has said nothing about DATY, and the other way round. If you've read the other pages in this glossary you know this pattern by now, it's the one rule behind the whole vocabulary.
Reading it on a profile
DATY shows up less often than the oral acronyms that go the other direction, and when it's missing that's not an oversight. If it isn't listed, take it as a no. If it is listed, you still don't have to bring it up separately. Confirming your booking the normal way is enough.
One thing to say plainly: with this service the client's own preparation matters more than with most. Showering before the appointment is basic courtesy for any booking, and providers notice. It's not too much to ask and it takes you ten minutes.
Frequently asked questions
Is DATY normally included in the standard rate?
If it's offered at all, usually yes. It's rarely priced as an extra the way CIM often is.
Can I ask a provider who does not list it?
You can ask once, in writing, before the booking. Expect a no. Asking again, or bringing it up in the room, takes you from curious to pushy in one step, and providers talk.
Why is it listed under a different name in the catalogue?
Filters are indexed by the clinical term and not the slang, so searching the acronym often finds nothing. We're adding the acronyms as search synonyms. Until then, the plain-language term works.
Does 69 count as DATY?
They overlap but are listed separately, because one happens at the same time and the other doesn't. Check for both if both matter to you.
Part of the TrystHub escort slang glossary.
